My 20`s started out with a bang!
Me being so brave and moving out of the country alone. All i wanted was to look for greener pastures. To leave behind all the struggles and hardship that seemed to never have an end. Searching endlessly for the light at the end of the tunnel! And praying and believing that God would one day open a way. And He did! He surely did it even beyond my imagination. He has always done it for me. Always reassured me on the fact that having Faith and waiting on Him isn`t a waste of time. No no. Not a mistake. Because His timing is PERFECT. And right now as i`m sitting here in the comfort of my small space called Home, i can`t thank Him enough. Thank Him for all those hardships and struggles. For the tears and laughters. For holding on to Him when i never understood why. Why me… Why us…. But now, yes now i totally understand that He had a greater purpose for me than what i had in mind. A purpose that is yet to be fulfilled.
In exactly one year and 20 days from now i will be turning 30. And with that i can already feel the different changes that is taking place in me. You know, the fine wrinkels under my eyes don`t go unnoticed when i wake up in the morning. My skin screams for more moisture now than ever in my life. I can`t just do away with a lotion by itself. I always have to seal in the moisture with an oil in order for me not to deal with dry skin. And mind you, i take enough water! So how do you explain that?
The truth is that we aren`t growing older. I know for i`m not. I have learnt to embrace it. To be and to live in the moment. I’m learning that thorns are the very beauty of blossoming roses. Would roses please and enthral if they didn’t have prickly thorns that made the stalk even more delicate to hold? I’m learning that the beauty of this journey is that we learn lots of lessons and grow past the thorns of life as we bloom. The lessons learnt and the impact they have on our lives are the most significant teachings that we can ever achieve in this life. They say the best way to learn something is to teach or share it, so here are five life lessons I picked up along the way:
- AS YOU GROW YOUR GOALS AND ASPIRATIONS WILL CHANGE
I just had a conversation last week with a really good friend of mine and he asked me: ,,Milly if you were still in Kenya, would there be a Styled by Milly? Would you have a fashion blog? This question got me thinking. And i was very honest with him and told him No. The truth is Blogging is not cheap. It requires money! Investing in a good camera, a good lens, sometimes even a photographer and then comes the clothes! I don`t think this would have been my cup of tea. When i realized i wanted, no i needed to take this passion of mine to another level, i knew that i had to invest in it. Invest my time. My effort. My cash. My everything. I mean this is my Brand. This is Me. And as i`m continuing with this journey, i`m getting to learn more about myself as each day goes by.
- POSITIVITY TAKES PRACTISE
Everyone wants to be happy and approach the world with a positive outlook, but I’ve discovered positivity takes practise. It’s almost like exercising the brain! Our emotions are controlled by our thoughts and we have the power to choose our thoughts. It takes a lot of work because most of what we think is automatic; but if you can train yourself to choose positive thoughts you’ll begin to experience more positive emotions. It`s a CHOICE. Never forget that
- I HAVE MADE MISTAKES
Lots of them. I can`t even start counting.I’ve done things worthy of guilt, shame and regret. Big things that i couldn’t even whisper to myself aloud. That’s okay. I`m human. I`m in no way close to being perfect. I’m learning that the mistakes I made have only refined my character, humbled me and grounded me.
- FRIENDSHIPS WILL COME IN AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE
This is the bitter truth. I have had to learn this the hard way. Mostly because i`m that kind of person who loves and loves wholeheartedly. My mom can attest to this. I guess this has had to be one of the hardest things that i have dealt with recently. I`m learning to accept change. I have no option. I need to be in an environment where i can focus. And this can`t happen if i`m sorrounded by negativity. I’m learning to trust that as my path changes, I’ll cross paths with more beautiful, kind and gentle souls who’ll walk with me even as I cherish old friendships that brought me to where I am today.
- WOMANHOOD HAS COME
And it`s there to stay. I have matured. I`ve grown. I see things differently. I`m always thinking out of the box. I cannot tell you the number of home decor and furniture shops I’ve come to know! Ikea, my all time favorite. I can literally live in that store, haha 🙂 I have to think about what my family will eat tomorrow. Thinking about it now makes me realize that we don`t have enough milk for tomorrow! That means, i have to get up early enough and go for grocery shopping. (Gasp) What is life? Adulting is here and it has set up permanent camp.
And so here we are.
Just being 20-somethings. Just making it through. Just learning. Just thriving, and at other times, just surviving.
But guess what, we are making it through.
In spite of all the prickly, precarious thorns.
You and I are blossoming roses.
May we continue to bloom and grow in love and pure sunshine….
I got this dress last year as i travelled to Kenya to celebrate Christmas with my family. A beautiful investment i must agree!
Thank you for reading and enjoy the rest of your week loves 🙂
Dress: Chi Chi Clothing London