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5 Life Lesson I`ve Learnt In My 20`s

12/07/2016

My 20`s started out with a bang!

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Me being so brave and moving out of the country alone. All i wanted was to look for greener pastures. To leave behind all the struggles and hardship that seemed to never have an end. Searching endlessly for the light at the end of the tunnel! And praying and believing that God would one day open a way. And He did! He surely did it even beyond my imagination. He has always done it for me. Always reassured me on the fact that having Faith and waiting on Him isn`t a waste of time. No no. Not a mistake.  Because His timing is PERFECT. And right now as i`m sitting here in the comfort of my small space called Home, i can`t thank Him enough. Thank Him for all those hardships and struggles. For the tears and laughters. For holding on to Him when i never understood why. Why me… Why us…. But now, yes now i totally understand that He had a greater purpose for me than what i had in mind. A purpose that is yet to be fulfilled.

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In exactly one year and 20 days from now i will be turning 30. And with that i can already feel the different changes that is taking place in me. You know, the fine wrinkels under my eyes don`t go unnoticed when i wake up in the morning. My skin screams for more moisture now than ever in my life. I can`t just do away with a lotion by itself. I always have to seal in the moisture with an oil in order for me not to deal with dry skin. And mind you, i take enough water! So how do you explain that?

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The truth is that we aren`t growing older. I know for i`m not. I have learnt to embrace it. To be and to live in the moment. I’m learning that thorns are the very beauty of blossoming roses. Would roses please and enthral if they didn’t have prickly thorns that made the stalk even more delicate to hold? I’m learning that the beauty of this journey is that we learn lots of lessons and grow past the thorns of life as we bloom. The lessons learnt and the impact they have on our lives are the most significant teachings that we can ever achieve in this life. They say the best way to learn something is to teach or share it, so here are five life lessons I picked up along the way:

  • AS YOU GROW YOUR GOALS AND ASPIRATIONS WILL CHANGE

I just had a conversation last week with a really good friend of mine and he asked me: ,,Milly if you were still in Kenya, would there be a Styled by Milly? Would you have a fashion blog? This question got me thinking. And i was very honest with him and told him No. The truth is Blogging is not cheap. It requires money! Investing in a good camera, a good lens, sometimes even a photographer and then comes the clothes! I don`t think this would have been my cup of tea. When i realized i wanted, no i needed to take this passion of mine to another level, i knew that i had to invest in it. Invest my time. My effort. My cash. My everything. I mean this is my Brand. This is Me. And as i`m continuing with this journey, i`m getting to learn more about myself as each day goes by.

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  • POSITIVITY TAKES PRACTISE

Everyone wants to be happy and approach the world with a positive outlook, but I’ve discovered positivity takes practise. It’s almost like exercising the brain! Our emotions are controlled by our thoughts and we have the power to choose our thoughts. It takes a lot of work because most of what we think is automatic; but if you can train yourself to choose positive thoughts you’ll begin to experience more positive emotions. It`s a CHOICE. Never forget that

  • I HAVE MADE MISTAKES

Lots of them. I can`t even start counting.I’ve done things worthy of guilt, shame and regret. Big things that i couldn’t even whisper to myself aloud. That’s okay. I`m human. I`m in no way close to being perfect. I’m learning that the mistakes I made have only refined my character, humbled me and grounded me.

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  • FRIENDSHIPS WILL COME IN AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE

This is the bitter truth. I have had to learn this the hard way. Mostly because i`m that kind of person who loves and loves wholeheartedly. My mom can attest to this. I guess this has had to be one of the hardest things that i have dealt with recently. I`m learning to accept change. I have no option. I need to be in an environment where i can focus. And this can`t happen if i`m sorrounded by negativity. I’m learning to trust that as my path changes, I’ll cross paths with more beautiful, kind and gentle souls who’ll walk with me even as I cherish old friendships that brought me to where I am today.

  • WOMANHOOD HAS COME

And it`s there to stay. I have matured. I`ve grown. I see things differently. I`m always thinking out of the box. I cannot tell you the number of home decor and furniture shops I’ve come to know! Ikea, my all time favorite. I can literally live in that store, haha 🙂 I have to think about what my family will eat tomorrow. Thinking about it now makes me realize that we don`t have enough milk for tomorrow! That means, i have to get up early enough and go for grocery shopping. (Gasp) What is life? Adulting is here and it has set up permanent camp.

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And so here we are.

Just being 20-somethings. Just making it through. Just learning. Just thriving, and at other times, just surviving.

But guess what, we are making it through.

In spite of all the prickly, precarious thorns.

You and I are blossoming roses.

May we continue to bloom and grow in love and pure sunshine….

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I got this dress last year as i travelled to Kenya to celebrate Christmas with my family.  A beautiful investment i must agree!

Thank you for reading and enjoy the rest of your week loves 🙂

Milly 🙂

Details:

Dress: Chi Chi Clothing London

Shoes: Thrifted

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26 Comments

  • Reply Elle 12/07/2016 at 2:19 pm

    This post Milly. Thank you so much hun for this. It is so inspiring.. and big up for sharing. To the outfit , I so want the dress.. Looking lovely hun. Again, Thanks for sharing this.
    http://www.proudlyelled.com

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 12/07/2016 at 2:56 pm

      You are welcome my lovely Elle! You have been such a big inspiration to me. Glad i could return back the favour 🙂

  • Reply Joy 12/07/2016 at 2:56 pm

    I totally relate with all you have written. Lovely piece. Do you not feel nervous about clocking 30? I do sometimes. But then, I believe it’s something awesome to look forward to.

    And oh, I love love love and love your dress. Beautiful!

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 13/07/2016 at 1:33 pm

      I had to giggle to your lovely comment but the truth is yes, I do freak out about that number 30. But it’s inevitable! We all have to pass through it one way or another.. I have found out that the dreams, goals and visions I have for NY family and I keep me going on! That way I focus mostly on what’s positive and what is worth working for! Don’t be nervous. Embrace the moment my dear

  • Reply emily warinda 12/07/2016 at 3:30 pm

    This my swity was just life….. You are a beautiful soul, may you continue to shine and blossom in more ways than you can fathom….. You look absolutely stunning…. Took my breath away…. God Bless :* :*

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 13/07/2016 at 1:34 pm

      You my dear are Lifeee!
      Thank you for always being such a great support system! You are always appreciated

  • Reply alice selelo 12/07/2016 at 4:01 pm

    Wow this is such a beautiful read Milly i could totally relate.
    May our good Lord bless you and keep you. May you continue growing in wisdom. Keep up!!! Hugs

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 13/07/2016 at 1:38 pm

      Aaaaw!
      You made it to the blog my dear!!
      Amen and Amen…
      Your encouragement is very much appreciated

  • Reply Tifany 12/07/2016 at 4:43 pm

    Hi Milly! Absolutely beautiful post! You are definitely going to step into your 30s with God’s continued grace! Thanks for the inspiration! Blessings & love to you my sis!

    Tiff
    http://tinytiffs.blogspot.com

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 13/07/2016 at 1:39 pm

      Amen!
      You are a living proof that we can still shine no matter how old you are! Age is nothing but a number
      I have Faith and I’m letting God do his will in my life..

  • Reply Sonia 12/07/2016 at 11:10 pm

    Such an inspiration Hun. You are indeed a blossoming roses. It’s so true that our aspirations change as we get older. I ask myself the questions now an again if I was back in Sierra Leone would I be doing all the things am doing now the answer will definitely be No but am thankful that God has planted me where I am at the moment I am not better than those back home but I know if I was there he would have blessed me in his infinite wisdom. All the other lessons are so valid and I can totally relate am turning 30 too in the next 2 years. Am already embracing the milestone. You look beautiful Hun. One of my fav post you’ve done. Enjoy your week
    Sonishspace.com

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 13/07/2016 at 1:41 pm

      Yesss Son I!
      Couldn’t help but smile all the way as I was reading your heartfelt message which always has a way of lifting me up! We speak victory into our lives in Jesus Name. Lwr Him be our Leader in our thoughts and deeds..
      You are truly beautiful! Inside and out…

  • Reply Ken Ougo 13/07/2016 at 3:59 am

    This is so inspiring,keep it up Girl.

  • Reply Linda 13/07/2016 at 8:13 am

    Such an inspiring post Milly!
    Those shoes don’t look thrifted..and that dress is to die for
    You are so gorgeous dear

    http://www.lindasworldofstyle.com

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 13/07/2016 at 1:43 pm

      I know Linda right?
      It was actually never won when I got them, talking of being lucky
      Thank you for reading my dear

  • Reply Vicky Madowo 13/07/2016 at 3:51 pm

    Aaw, such an inspiration. You encourage me to be better everyday. I feel like i got a God-given bigger siz somewhere. Everything here is amazing. Blessings.

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 18/07/2016 at 1:35 pm

      Aaaaw!
      This made me smile Vicky!
      I`m glad to be an inspiration to you.. And more so i`m more than happy to be a big siz haha 🙂
      Thank you for reading my dear 🙂

  • Reply Wenluditoh Daniellah 13/07/2016 at 5:12 pm

    Eeeish Jaber each point was well said and I can very much relate! Life begins at 20 and we remain forever there cause thats where all the magic happens.
    This dress oooooh, I can’t deal! you so so on point, I once so it on your Instagram (not completely) while you were home and I couldn’t wait to see the full look. Its an elegant smile no wonder your smile is from one end of your ear to then next in all photos ha!
    Everything was well put together and nature was wonderful enough to blend it all
    Great job jaber
    x

    http://www.fashiongalorelovers.com

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 18/07/2016 at 1:37 pm

      Thank you so much my dear Wendy…
      It`s always a pleasure reading your thoughtful messages!
      You are one beautiful soul love….

  • Reply wendee isaacs 13/07/2016 at 6:09 pm

    This is such a great post Milly. I’m so proud of you for taking that bold step to start your life in a different country all alone. If we could all have your courage, we would make a great difference in our lives.

    wendee//theglossychic.com

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 18/07/2016 at 1:40 pm

      Aaaaw! Thank you so much.
      We can all be what we want to be if we only put fear far away from us. Sometimes we are the number one reason why we delay our dreams.
      You are very much appreciated 🙂

  • Reply Kagenyi flavia 14/07/2016 at 12:47 pm

    Wow sweetie, u really make me feel so proud of you. Thank u for sharing. I love your dress and shoes. I want to be like u

    • Styled by Milly
      Reply Styled by Milly 18/07/2016 at 1:41 pm

      Haha my dear Flavia! You should strive to be better than me. Trust me…
      That should be a good motivation to work beyond your dreams, right?
      May God bless you hun…

  • Reply Natassia Crystal 27/07/2016 at 10:15 pm

    Amazing floral dress! And it perfectly accentuates your figure! 🙂

    And red stiletto heels.. perfect choice for this outfit! 🙂

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  • Reply Tessy 29/07/2016 at 1:24 am

    Wow! You look amazing!

    http://www.tessyonyia.com

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